Best wishes from bookyone 🙂 This is an excellent post.I’ve too often said “I love you” in the heat of passion.How do you respond — with “Thank you,” “I know” or “There are many things I love about you, too”? But if you say those three words and don’t truly mean them, will more harm be done? The quandary is when you know you care for him, am fond of him, yes, perhaps even love him, but you know you’re not love with him.The former can be felt for anyone toward whom you have affection.Fortunately, my current husband and I waited close to nine months (hmmmm) before I said, “I love you.” Within the next 24 hours, he, too, confessed he loved me. :-)) Well, Christine, all my posts are based or informed by my own experiences, or those of my friends.Some are triggered by recent events, others by conversations I’ve had,or comments from DG readers.So, what do you say when he says “I love you” and you’re not ready to say it back?Maybe you know you’ll never be able to sincerely say “I’m in love with you,” but right now you have to say something.
But there are some yellow flags that make you doubt that you’ll be together in six months.
I really appreciated your comments on this issue; my entire dating experience has revolved around the men in my life confessing their love to me mere weeks or months after dating.
This occurence often leads me to be frustrated and withdrawn for some of the above mentioned reasons.
I want you to know that I am very fond of you, and it takes me a while to feel I love someone.
I don’t want you to think I don’t care about you if I don’t say ‘I love you.’ And I don’t want you to feel you can’t say it to me if that’s what you’d like to do.” But the larger picture needs to be addressed at some point.